The first thing that I learned very early in the process of parenting is that no matter how cute they are, you need to stick with what you say and mean it. This doesn't apply for just the child, also anyone that comes along and wants to change things. Cassidy is very sure of who she can get away with things with, and so are we. We first set rules and would add to them as she got older we tried to set rules that would grow with her, this way we didn't have to change things. You have to stick with what your doing and be consistant. I know that they have their way of putting on the charm and being really cute, I to have been tricked many times by that face. But you have to remember that everything that we do as parents from day one paves the way, making those few exceptions could start you back at square one and it could take weeks or months to get back to where you were. Believe me I should know we have had to do it a few times and not because we got her off track. Not only does it hurt the child to get them off track but it also hurts the parents. It isn't always easy to get everyone to follow your rules but you have to try, I would just say try your best and let those who disrespect your wishes know it is not acceptable for them to interfear.