As per my first request I will go further into the no negotiating part of raising my children. From day one we have done no negotiating what we say goes and that’s how it is. If I say no chocolate or candy that’s exactly what I mean, not only for my husband and I but family as well, no one changes our mind. A better example is meal time I know how much each of my children is capable of eating I don’t give them an amount I know they can’t finish. So if during breakfast/lunch my 3 year old tells me “I am done” and she still has food left on her plate I kindly remind her no snacks no nothing till lunch/dinner depending on the meal. Some of the time about an hour to 3o min prior to lunch/dinner I get the im hungry could I have something to eat? The answer every time is no. I will remind her why by asking “well did you finish your lunch/dinner?” This helps to remind her that I told her before she got down that there would be nothing until the next meal. Another thing that goes along with this is we have set times that we eat normally it will vary about 20/30 min one way or another but thing to drastic, I never move this time according to them as far as eating early because they didn’t finish a meal. They will either learn to eat the food when it’s made for them or figure out that we are not short order cooks. This goes along with everything not just food, if I give my children a task and say if you do this then we can do this, and if what they are supposed to do isn’t done we aren’t doing anything. It isn’t being a mean parent its setting them up for success. I will add more to this sometime this week as I have tons of no negotiating scenarios.
I appreciate the comments and would love more suggestions as to what would help people out. Remember this is what my husband and I choose to do it may not be right for you and your children, but those that are around my children will follow the rules we set for our children. That is another topic and I am sure we will get to it soon.!!!!!
